Hello Honey, I know you are surprised to receive this letter from me. I really appreciate everything you have done for me and your efforts to sustain our relationship. As said by the man whose life inspires you most that “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter” Martin Luther King Jnr.
Kojo, there are certain things that you do and if I don’t draw your attention to it our relationship may face serious challenges. I am very shocked by your sudden request for sex despite our initial agreement that NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. The pressure you are mounting on me is becoming unbearable. I really love you but I can’t prove my love for you with sex. My virginity is my dignity and where I lose it, there my heart will be forever. I don’t want to lose my virginity at a time when a 22 year old virgin is scarce than a dog on Bolgatanga market or a sanitary pad in a boy’s school. Try and tame your animalistic libidinal drive for me. I mean your “Kofi Manu” for God abhors fornication. Read 1 Cor 3:17 and 1 Cor 6:18-21 and you will understand why I want to remain a virgin till we marry. No relationship is weaker than one that is built on the foundation of sin.
Kojo, have you come to realize that football is ruining your life? You watch all the football matches played in the world, ranging from Division 1 to Division 7 and even watch matches played in Tonga Island. You will agree with me that your life will be improved if you square that enthusiasm you have for football with your personal life. Imagine wearing the Jersey of your favorite team Man “U” together with our kids to watch Man U matches, won’t that be lovely? Please invest your football passion into your life.
Kojo, I know what I am about to say may hurt you, but you know what? I must tell you the truth to set you free. I want you to stop taking part in your hall procession and “charging”. The other day, I saw you with my crystal clear lens, and you were chanting, dancing and almost naked. I wept deep in my heart and that reminded me of what my grandma told me on our way to farm at the village in 1997. She said “Everybody likes a fool but no one wants him for a son”. This time around you are not my son but my future husband and I don’t want a fool for a future husband or my future kids will want a fool as their Dad.
What you guys do during your procession can never be described as fun or joy. It is absolutely FOOLING in disguise. You sing profane songs and mention the name of the female sex organ in Twi with impunity; this shows that you have no respect for female dignity. Instead of you to spend your time doing something lucrative so that one day you can build a full block for your hall so it can be named after you; you are rather wasting your time on procession. I may be forced to end this relationship with you if you don’t stop taking part in your hall procession, trust me.
Kojo, I want you to be proactive, it seems you have no idea of what to do after your graduation from the university; you must start planning for that now. There are many universities abroad that offer full scholarships to graduate students, and you can start applying now even before you graduate. Kojo, you have to be smart, there are many challenges facing the youth today but those who are smart and proactive will survive the system.
There is no job out there that a graduate student can do to earn more than GH¢1,000 so you have to upgrade yourself. I want us to have a secured future and it all depends on what we do now. I know you don’t really have much but that is not my concern, my focus is to make you look better than the day I met you. I want you to start saving and stop wasting your money on gambling (my bet). Have enough time with God and stop being so engrossed with entertainment too. Kojo, It shall be well with us ok. I really love you and will do everything as a lady to build our relationship. God bless you Honey.
Your lovely future wife,
Ntenhene Felix
(felixntenhene@gmail.com)
KNUST.
Author’s note: This piece is a fiction to advise guys on our university campuses
